In my experience, people nearly never touch me because of my weight. On buses, people will stay as far away from me as possible, sometimes even getting up and going to an empty seat once the bus clears out. I think that these are generally the two extremes for larger people in public areas: either people try not to touch you at all or they touch you in socially inappropriate ways as they wouldn't touch anyone else.

people are weird in general. my best friend is a size 6 and she gets stuff like that too. People feeling entitled to ask her what size she wears, comment on her long legs (she's 5'10), constantly hearing "damn girl you tall!", reaching out and grabbing her or touching her. I get public comments too and i'm a size 12, so I think people feel entitled to give WOMEN infringement into their privacy. isn't it freaking annoying?

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@samantha - people are no ruder in NYC than they are anywhere else. there are just more of them in a smaller area, so you encounter more people every day… more chances for interactions. the stereotype that new yorkers are rude is just that - a stereotype. sadly, only new yorkers seem to know that.

i feel that people i don't know generally seem less inclined to touch me. however, my friends and i are a touchy feely group - lots of hugs and hand holding, stuff like that - so i don't know that i could say they touch me more or less than our thinner friends.

however, i do feel that generally some people have much less respect for personal space. when i lived in new york, most new yorkers have a decent respect for your personal space - they don't crowd you unless they need to, like on a full bus.

i now live near the tourist capital of the world, and not all cultures have that same idea of 'personal space'. when waiting on line at a store, they think that 2-3 inches - i am NOT exaggerating - is an appropriate distance to leave between my ass and their body. my husband is fond of stretching and *almost* hitting them to reclaim his space.

i'm not sure what the point is. only that new yorkers aren't all rude. and that some people from different areas and different cultures have different views on touching strangers. i don't think it has anything to do with our size - large or small.

I actually work with a girl who is about my size who goes by the nickname "Big Sexy". She even has a tattoo of it!

I used to work in Lane Bryant, ALL the time I would get "Yeah, she's about your size." Gee, thanks.

And Samantha, yes people are rude here. Which is why not everyone is cut out for living here.

I think it all boils down to a lack of respect for people in general. Whether they stare or touch, say something or don't, it is all out of personal gain. There is a selfish side of those comments that many cannot see. Like what was her point to tell you that you look fine? Did it bother her that you were pretty and looking at yourself in a mirror? That is what I want to know, what is that inner feeling that draws out these comments and unwanted attention?

I am from Florida born and raised and each place has its own culture and way of living. I could not tell you how many times an older lady or gentleman has made comments about my weight to me. I just brush it off and move on.

And oh don't forget when during holidays aunts and uncles feel free to comment on how fat your still are and won't you lost all that weight already?

Its our bodies, not frickin public properties. Assholes.

Sorry, just have lots of anger. Just found your blog, love it and I wear a size 16 Australia so I know what I'm talking about.

I can't speak for the inappropriate comments of a handful of idiots, but if I had to guess, lovely CeCe, you are touched by others because you are a touching person. Not to be confused with touchy. Your glow, energy, effervescence, spirit, kindness, warmth, joy - people are attracted to that. Like a moth to flame. Except you, my dear, don't burn them.

That said, your body is just that, and no one has the right to touch you when you don't wish to be touched. And telling them so is well within your right. As long as you don't kick me to the curb when I come running with hugs for you
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Before I graduated High School, people would love to sit beside me just so they could use my arm as their personal pillow! It was so uncomfortable for me, I would stiffen up and just feel awkward for the entire class. All they would say is “You’re so soft! Like a teddy bear or something!”. Maybe they thought they were complimenting me, but I just found it to be annoying.