As much as I hate to admit it, I often think the same thing. Then I also remember that my ex boyfriend was a good looking man (not just by my standards) and he liked PSPs, his now girlfriend is actually one as well. It just gives me hope that there are other attractive, dateable men out there who like us.

I know what you mean but I've had skinny women give me the same stare. It's amazing, especially because I'm not the home wrecker type at all. It's just about insecurity. Although to be honest, (and this might sound twisted) but I get a secret high when it's a skinny woman (and her b/f is cute) giving me the stare because I know I look super-cute that day

Okay this I have been dealing with a long time (and I am in my thirties) it is a vicious cycle and is quite sad. There are many different sizes and shapes in our plus size world and many men who love us. Just because you like a man does not mean that he is my cup of tea. And trust me ladies just because you are out with your man and I see he with you, does not mean that I am gonna be jealous. I have dated many men in my lifetime and half of them I still can not get rid of. Just be yourself and if you are truly secure with who you are you won't be worried about who is looking at your man nor will you be that sad chick trying to strong arm a man because you know he likes the big girls. Men do not like women who are aggressive in that way. And it is not sexy you look desperate.

@LoverofWords: You have it — both the right idea, and the alluring sense of self and confidence which everyone else wants. In a way, both men and women want you have — just in different ways.

I think this is riddiculous. I've never tried to steal (or even flirt with) ANY other girl's boyfriend nor have I (that I was aware of) had it happen to me. Then again, I sure don't live in NYC. Are PSP loving dudes that hard to come by that we have to resort to this? Where is the fellow PSP respect?!

Yeah I'm pretty sure this happens with all women. Because in a related context. my mom used to tell me how she would get dirty looks from Black women when they'd see her with my dad. (She's Italian and my dad is Black.) Because she was told by one that they're sick of "white women stealing all the good black men."

But I don't doubt the validity of it happening specifically in the PSP world also.

Yess.. I've definitely gotten the stinkeye when some random guys GF is a fellow PSP. I don't know why we feel the need to give other ladies evil stares. I would hope your man loves you and respects you enough to NOT cheat..

Girl bye, i get that look all the time. Like why are you so focused on me. I dont want your man. And I get the stares when I’m out with my co-worker, we arent dating but them girls stare me down like “how did I get him:” i just dont understand. Some females are too much

Just had a similar situation to your “party” experience. While on the C train platform in Brooklyn, my fiance and I are being our usual silly selves, happy and goofy. And we both noticed a beautiful PSP, trying her hardest to catch his attention - while unsuccessfully trying to hide it from me. We both laughed it off, and both commented on how physically attractive she was. And my love said, “She’s so pretty, why doesn’t she just try to get someone who’s single, she can have him all to herself. I’m alot to share..” LOL, ridiculous. Both him and those insecure women.

I deal with this foolishness a lot. It is frustrating to get mean mugged or the “Ice Grill”by other plus sized women. I’ve started to compliment other plus sized women instead of returning the dirty looks. That seems to put the woman at ease or at least catch her off guard and entertain me.