over the shoulder boulder holder is a 'funny' term for bras that has been used just about forever. it doesn't have anything to do with the size of the bra - it's just what they are called by some people. i had my 36A training bra called an over the shoulder boulder holder by numerous family members (who think they're funnier than they are, truth be told).

women in general are objectified - whether we're plus size, skinny, large breasted, tall, whatever. sometimes i wonder if plus size women are a bit too sensitive about stuff like this. i am a big girl who is married to a tall, thin, lanky man, and i have a very thin mother. i hear the kinds of things people say about them as well (my husband has been told he looks like a heroin addict on more than one occasion, but that's just his build).

i think it's more about people in general objectifying women and judging people based solely on looks. it's also about people being judgmental pricks, intolerant humans, and not having empathy for other people.

if we learned to respect other people and empathize with their problems and ideas, maybe we'd all be able to get along better and have fuller lives. maybe we wouldn't have to worry that people are always looking at us and judging us because we're fat/skinny/tall/short/large breasted/bald/tattooed/white/black/whatever. maybe we can all just be 'people'.

First, let me start off by saying that i love your blog! and i second, i totally understand what you mean.
When i was in elementary school i tried to hide my girls by wearing my brothers clothing because i didn't want to draw attention to my chest. The older I've gotten the less self conscious i've become with my chest.
If someone is going out of their way to compliment my boobs than it's alright with me but if someone is going out of their way to humiliate me than i have no choice but to tell them what they deserve.
Long comment short, i love my boobs!

The opposite…I wish that the one thing that had gotten bigger as I had was my boobs! I just recently bought a "C" bra.

I'm glad to hear you say you think large breasts make clothes cuter because I feel the opposite way about mine. One of the most annoying things to me is when people feel the need to say to my face (friends, family, anyone), "You have big boobs." Oh my god! I hadn't noticed! Thank you so much for letting me know.

One of my nicknames in middle school was Titzilla. This was really only because all the other girls my age barely had anything, and I was a large C/small D by that time, so I was developing and gaining weight MUCH faster than all the other girls I was around.

It's only recently that I've become more comfortable with having large breasts and wearing bras that are the proper size. I didn't like that they made my boobs appear larger, but as I've gotten older, I definitely look better with the girls lifted and separated. Even now, though, I struggle with being okay with my breast size, and in general have to prep myself going out in public with a good bra that puts 'em where their supposed to be.

My biggest struggle with large breasts is honestly that men who like big boobs like me. And most of the time, these guys are awkward or creepy and make me feel completely objectified. It's almost as though they only like me because I can fill out a large bra. Plus, I hate when they ask what my size is, as if they can get off on it. Except for that, I definitely think I'm accepting myself much more and feel far more comfortable with having large breasts.

I hate mine! They are 38DDD and they aren't perky. The are full but I want them to stand at attention. It's even caused my intimacy with my boyfriend to be sour because he is a butt man and I don't want him to see my saggy boobs. I can't take my bra off

I remember when I was in fourth grade a friend told me I should wear my mom's bra because I was developing so quickly. Unfortunately wearing a bra hadn't crossed my mind before that moment.

What I want to know, is why do men feel the desire to take my bra and put it on their heads? This has seriously happened to me more than a few times. It's really unusual and I'm not entirely sure how I do/should feel about it!