Bravo! excellent lesson, Cece. The tactlessness and the audacity of some people makes me crazy. How did you handle that? I hope you punched him or at least said something that put him in his place before you walked away.

Seriously, the guy deserved a quick knee in the nads.

THANK YOU!!!!! There are so many moments at which i want to scream this from the mountain tops! Why do men feel the need to do that?

one thing i hate is when guys try to flirt and refer to me as Big mama..Hatttttttttttte it! its not cute and im not flattered

Thank you for saying what every bigger woman wants to have said. I am proud of you for speaking up!

Sincerely, Secretia

I think you make a good point but your comparison to skinny girls being told "I loooove small women" is not accurate. Many men tell women that. I am small and I have been told that, myself.
My boyfriend is what you would call a…"nerd". And you know what, I have told him "I loooove nerds!" He was embarrassed a bit at first, but he began to realize that in my mind, it was the sexiest thing he could possibly be!
By the way, I LOVE your blog and I read it often.

I often felt objectified or like a fetish if someone commented on liking my size too. As you said, if you take me out, show me affection and generally care for me as in any dating/couple situation, it will be obvious that you like me, my body and that my size is OK with you. It’s not necessary to point it out. However, I do think some girls have the habit of asking “So you like bigger girls?” or some such question. I think I was guilty of this when I was younger. Same response. Uh, duh, of course he does if he’s out with you, so why make it an issue? Maybe some guys do this because they’ve been with insecure girls who need the reassurance that the guy is into them. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just wondering if they’re preconditioned to put bigger girls at ease because they’ve been in contact with so many who lack confidence.