Hmm, I honestly think that you missed a great opportunity for a lesson in self-control. I understand that you’re being a food nazi with what you bring into your house and it’s good that you are trying to change your food habits. However as you said, life doesn’t stop when you’re trying to lose weight. Just because it’s there doesn’t mean that you have to eat the whole thing. You could have gotten a small serving, put the jar all the way in the back of your fridge, eaten your serving and once you brushed your teeth, then the mouth drive thru is closed for the evening. If you can’t handle the self-control it takes to refuse eating the entire jar of cake, then you need to learn to be able to do it. Otherwise you’ll be stuck weighing, counting calories and stressing over everything food related that is near you forever. That’s no way to live and it’s a vicious cycle. Even olympic athletes have a bit of indulgence now and then.

I’m overweight and struggle with it but I also don’t believe in limiting myself because then you’ll only crave it more. And hell, depending on how that cake was made (specifically if it was homemade) it may have been infinitely healthier in the long run than eating processed “good for you” treats like Skinny Cow.

Sorry I just feel that you could have overcome this problem much better than just throwing it away and refusing to really deal with it. Also I just hate when people waste food.

I applaud all of your amazing work in getting healthy. You have really taken control and stuck to your guns. But honey, real life happens and people offer you food, and obsessing over every single bite of cake is not the way you want to live the rest of your life. I would have taken the jar, cut a piece from the top, put it on a plate, and eaten it. The jar would have gone into the fridge, and I would have taken it to work the next day to “pay it forward.” Cake is not the end of the world, nor is eating a bit ruining a day’s work. I have to agree with HP - you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of obsessing and counting and denying and relapsing. That’s called dieting and we all know that dieting does not work in the long run. Be proud of yourself and all that you have accomplished!

The idea of bringing it to work is a good one…but that means it’s still there in your house, tempting you all night. I hate to say it, but when I’ve got food like that around me, it’s nearly impossible to resist. And that makes me mad! I want my willpower to be stronger. I have to remind myself that fitting into the great clothes I have in my closet is way more fun than eating four slices of pizza or a huge slice of cake. I struggle with this all the time, so I feel you. But good for you for throwing it out! I don’t always have the willpower for that…I’m glad you did!

Hi! Just found your blog yesterday after Googling to find out why slips (yes, for under dresses) seem so difficult to find these days! So I tuned into your blog post from a couple years ago about Shapewear.
I started my life changing eating/exercising last August. So far down about 50 pounds and at least 10% of total body fat. I totally agree that every PSP (love the term btw!) has a different road (as does every human) in terms of how we eat, exercise, and look after our health. I would have been fine with having a small portion with a glass of milk, and putting the rest in the fridge. But I’m happier with a slow drop in weight because I’m on this eating/exercise plan for life, and I have to do it my way. You of course need to do what works for you.

Many thanks for your blog! It’s also great to see a woman with good self-esteem writing about the issues that face us big girls.

You..are my hero…I have no will power!!