I’m confused about my own reaction to this post, and I think it is partly because I feel (I know it is silly) somewhat protective of you, like you’re my little cyber sis.

I want to bounce up and down and be wildly happy for you. Kudos for even getting the words out there. I’m sure they stuck in your throat like dry toast.

Part of me winced when Robert said “timing is important.” Yes, it is. But every day life goes on. True, a relationship isn’t something to enter into lightly. But doesn’t he know you well enough by now to know if he’d like to take you into consideration when he makes social decisions? It makes me think Robert is hedging his bets or waiting to see what else pops up around the corner.

I’ll be the first one to admit that I don’t wait patiently. But that’s me, not anyone else.

Of course, if his reaction gave you reason to pause and reflect as it did, then perhaps it is all for good reasons, and time will tell the true path to take.

I hope the day comes when you and Robert decide together to seize the day.

It’s about damn time you started this conversation. Now that it is out in the open you can continue to address it and see where it leads. Who knew he took things so seriously? It sounds like what you really wanted to tell him was “I want to make out with you” and then move on to “exclusively” but not to “at our wedding”. At least you know he doesn’t take things lightly but he needs to know first comes LOVE and THEN comes marriage. Don’t skip steps.

I think that Robert is totally on point. The fact that Cece wasn’t in the same place in her thoughts means that he was probably right to proceed cautiously. I think that it’s really cool that he has a serious perspective about what relationships are and was able to communicate it so clearly. I’m surprised that some think that his perspective is rushing it - it seems the natural progression from where they’ve been to me. I hope that this works out Cece, he seems like a good guy who’s really making an effort to communicate.

One question: If he takes it so seriously why didn’t he approach you in a serious manner before and tell you how he felt rather than send mix signals?

I hope this works out for you, but I was in a situation where the guy said the same thing. The difference in my case was that ultimately he was just trying to give me as little as possible to keep me interested, while he continued doing his own thing. Robert’s actions after this will mean much more than his words. If, at any time, you feel like you are again alone in this thing you have “together” it will be time to reflect. Again, best of luck to you!

Hi. Today Im home from work because of my knee (cant move it) and was searching through internet as I often do, and suddenly your page came up to my attention. I read through your blog and I really like it So Im adding you to my bookmarks , so I can read your blog everyday Im a 26 years old woman from Norway, so now you got a fan from Norway, Oslo If you have some stores, coffe shops or other stuff you really like, I would be happy if you wrote about it. I really want to travel to New York this year, lucky you who is living there
Hope everything will work out for you and Robert, just remember ; Follow your heart

OMG CeCe!!! It creeps me out how alike we are in where we are in our lives. Reading this is making me rethink the convo I was going to bring up with the guy I’m currently dating. I was totally thinking the same way you were about relationships. To me, it’s just exclusive, we make out and hang out more… no serious planning, no seriousness, just what we have, but better. I’m a firm believer that everyone is put in our lives for a reason, and from what I know of you, Robert is an especially important one in your life. It’s great that he really does want to think this over so seriously, but at the same time he should at least give you exclusivity. I agree with Lusty Saggitarian (hehe cute name) that he may be holding off to see what comes next. But it’s all in God’s hands.

I’m very proud of proud of you for bringing up this discussion. Now to build my own courage to do the same thing.. In the back of my head I wonder though, shouldn’t he be the one asking me? Eh, I’ll take matters into my own hands. I guess we always have to be careful what we ask for, we just might get an answer… I can’t wait to read what happens next!!!

xoxo, V

I am the exact opposite of you. I’m used to being in a relationship but I am terrible at dating, so terrible that I have been ruining potential relationships because of it. I hope whatever happens with Robert that it is for the best and makes you both happy!