I’m totally with you. So gross.

Well, I have come to see that there are certain red flags that let me know early on to jettison a guy, and the more pics plea is definitely one.

I hate when women get blamed for men’s bad behavior. It’s women’s faults that men ask for too many photos, implicitly sexy ones? That’s the attitude that keeps women oppressed. I agree that a woman should stand up to pressure from men to send photos if she doesnt want to, but I bet there are some women out there who enjoy sending sexy photos and that’s ok too. If a man does something disrespectful it’s HIS fault period. Don’t blame other women.

Sexy pics are solely for the exclusive b/f…ONLY.

There is something happening on those online sites for sure. I’ve been asked many times for “more pics” and have refused only to have all communication end. I’m fine with that.

There are a few women out there will low self esteem that ruined it for the others.

A male friend told me about this time last year, that men will ask heavier women to do and for things they wouldnt ask a thinner woman. When I asked why, he informed me that “some” men think heavier women are lonelier and are willing to be a little more freaky just to get some attention or lovin.
(apprently their think we’re not getting any)

Crap. He’s right.
There are a group of men out there like that. I’ve encountered them. Many of them. Refused them all. Sad that there is that shitty idea floating around out there with some men.

When I got the “more pics” request I just cut off all communication. Life is too short to deal with shallow idiots – just ignore them.

Love this! it’s amazing how little some men are willing to invest in meeting women, and even more amazing at how many women let them get away with it.

What an awful experience. You were right to react as you did – before you knew it they’d be up in the internet somewhere (don’t get me wrong if that’s your thing -do you). Now if only we could get the message through t teens.

OMG. I have had this SAME problem on several occasions. It’s such a disappointment. I NEVER send pics like that to a guy unless they are in a SERIOUSLY dating me. Also, they have to earn it! Do these guys think we’re nuts? We are just going to send a sexy picture of ourselves to a total stranger?! It could end up on the internet for God’s Sake!
I’m always shocked that men are ballsy enough to request this. Do some women actually just jump at the chance? I’m passing no judgment if that’s what you’re into but it certainly shouldn’t be something a guy can ask so casually.
I’m sorry this guy was such a douche. NEXT PLEASE!

I couldn’t have stated it more accurately myself. People, men and women, need to be held accountable for their actions.

Since, I’ve never dated from on line (only because I’ve been married for many years!) Isn’t there a way to post that you’re not sending additional photos on your stat page (or whatever it is that they actually see)? Maybe women should start asking them for more photos first…lol! Men won’t change unless you make them! Great post!

amen. all that needs to be said… so stop doing it already to all the starved-for-love but settling for scraps chicks who keep reinforcing this lame idea and practice to men…. so disgusting how guys can deem this sort of pornographic, demeaning request acceptable… and absolutely revolting that there are women who cave to it and delude themselves that their replies to our debasement is “appreciation.”

Is it just male egos running wild…thinking if we are big women, we are also easy, happy to dole out because we are so needy…where do these men come from? Don’t give them a second thought….they are so not worth the effort….

PSP getting naked for men on dating sites? Where do princesses of ANY size do that? Those PSPs are Plus Sized Prostitutes! I’m just sayin! If YOU don’t respect you he’s not going to either!!!!!!!!!!

LOL — I used to get this one. That and asking for my IM handle are two big “hit the reject” button mistakes in my book.

But, I have to admit… for a while I would just mess with them. I had a bunch of pictures of me with progressively more and more clothes on that I would dole out every time they asked. The stupid ones were like Pavlov’s dogs… just kept bonking their nose on the computer screen asking for more. At one point, I sent one guy a picture of just my foot. It finally got the point across. (And it made me laugh.) I’ve also done the, ask them for pics thing. But after my first few penis pictures, quit that in a real hurry. Yuck.

So glad I found this. I tried to find insight into this behavior. Yesterday, I was asked to send a pic and I sent my face in picture only. I thought that was what he meant until I woke up and pondered the request. I am not even sure if he meant to ask for sexy pictures but it’s a hell to the no if he did. Thanks!

Agreed!!!!!!