Yikes. Who ghostwrites for you, Mimi Roth?

I completely get what you are saying and you are definitly not saying anything about weight less you are taking about style and about loving yourself. People tend to get outrageous for attention and its not always flattering. Quite a few larger girl use their breasts and in turn their sexuality as a weapon because its something they can say is a pro to being fat. I think that a tad bit slutty, extreme overcompensation phase is just a part in learning to love yourself, at that point you are done hiding your body and want to showcase the goods and show you have confidence, its just a matter of getting past that phase and becoming a fatshionista and reeling things in to a flattering level that is important.

I hear what you're saying, but I think that this is something that happens with women (and men) of all weights and sizes.

Lipstick won't make you prettier, more successful, thinner or happier, but the boost it gives your ego might just spur you to pursue the things that WILL make you happier.

People of all sizes wear things that don't suit them and dye their hair crazy colors in pursuit of their ideal persona.

That's fashion, dahling.

I also get what you are trying to say but it seems to be missing the mark in my opinion.

I blog about plenty of PSP who wear things they have NO business wearing out in public, but that behavior isn't widespread at all.

You are singling out PSP for being over the top and not having your fashion standards.

So what some PSP flaunt their chest. For each big girl in Harlem that does it, I can count 3 skinny chicks on the Upper West that also do it.

Skinny chicks just aren't born with the gift of fashion.

I mean, what's the opposite of your case. A PSP who tries to keep it fashionable and ignores the fact that she's just as overweight?

From what I see in NYC, there's more PSP who think "I'm big but my curves are in all the right places" or "I'm big but I dress fashionable" than the type you are talking about.

Either way all 3 views seem like excuses and aren't dealing with the true issue.

CeCe I do get what you are trying to say, and I have seen it myself.

I think with some of the PSPs I have seen dressed in outrageous fashions with crazy hair and piercings, have all been younger girls. Which is a tough age no matter your weight. You are searching for your identity and people do that through their look.

I think of it this way. If I look in the mirror and like what I see when I leave the house, and I carry myself with confidence, not everyone is going to like what I am wearing, not everyone is going to like the color of my hair. But if I do. That is all that matters.

Wow, very well said!

Amen sister!!!! I am a size 16 and I manage to dress cute, sexy and appropriate. When I see a girl dressed over the top, I wonder what is she trying to hide?

i am sorry to say i feel like the girl you are talking about. but i want to believe that i'm not really as over-the-top as i think i am. i like brightly colored tights and pairing them with low key dresses, though i don't like a lot of cleavage. when i first started cultivating my style, i was obsessed with being matchy-matchy. now, i'm the polar opposite. i like my personal style, even if some girls, (whatever their size) don't.
it's taken me a long time to psychologically get where i am with clothing. i don't ever remember not being chubby, and all throughout high school and part of college, i wore boys clothes. i'm mid-20s and am just now getting that i'm as much girl as any other female and that clothes are ancillary to what we're about.
i enjoy your blog!

How about the girls who do dress like that and still, manage to feel comfortable in their skin.
I think you are looking at the situation through your own eyes- when you dressed like that you knew that you were doing it because of how you felt – so they must feel the same way.
And that's where I disagree with you, because there are some girls who are just fine with what they look like.
What if a girl doesn't think she's a fashion victim? What if she doesn't want to lose weight – what if she just happens to be a plus sized lady gaga – I doubt gaga wants to be thinner, she's just eccentric as all hell (but, that's only what I think)…
I think whereas a good deal of your entry is indeed true for many plus sized girls, which is clear to see according to your comments, even according to my own experience, but I'll never lose sight of the fact that for some young ladies, it is simply not their truth. There are many big girls for whom overcompensating couldn't be farther from their minds. Being thin/thinner is not at all on their wish list or radar.
For some people it's not overcompensating, it's waking up in the morning. They don't think they're fashion victims – you do.
By saying that these girls overcompensate for not being thin, you're ultimately buying into society's idea that if you're thin, you wont feel the need to be a fashion victim anymore (which causes me to wonder about thin women whom one might consider a fashion victim -what exactly are they overcompensating for?) I digress, it still all comes down to what you said at the very end –

"Because at the end of the day when we take out our piercings, fake hair and contacts… if we don't feel comfortable in our own skin– it doesn't matter."

You're absolutely right! For you, feeling comfortable in your own skin might mean being thin/thinner, and you might say that's not true, but I feel if it weren't you would've added one word – if we take out our piercings, fake hair, contacts and fat – only because it is equally and especially true.
It doesn't matter how fat OR thin you are, if you aren't ok with who you are in your head, what size you happen to fit into does not matter. It never will.

Maybe, just maybe some of these fashion victim girls are perfectly fine with who they are in their heads, and if that is the case – you should be fine with them too. Even though I suspect even if you weren't, they wouldn’t really care.

its just a matter of getting past that phase and becoming a fatshionista and reeling things in to a flattering level that is important.

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i just found your blog today and have spent a few hours perusing it, and was really enjoying it except for this post, i think it is important to also remember that the pierced,crazy haired girls just want to be excepted for who they are, i have manic panic dyed rainbow hair, i have 26 piercings and lots of tattoos, that doesn’t mean i am over compensating…. i am not a small girl (239lbs) and my piercings, hair and tattoos have nothing to do with my body weight and everything to do with my personality. i am not saying its the same for every girl, but we all have our own reasons for the way we look and its important to remember that before judging girls that are different.