I don’t normally comment, but, well, you asked
I think that it’s not fair to expect the guy to know what you want. Why should he ask you out again, put himself out there (risking rejection, since you’re “really hard to read” in his head), when you don’t want to take the same risk (put yourself out there) yourself? Just cause he’s a guy? That doesn’t seem right.

I think its fine to expect good manners, but to be honest I doubt most people know about the ‘girl shouldn’t walk on the outside’ rule and such of that nature.

I don’t think he was asking for an ego stroke. I think he was just curious about how you felt the night went. At least he cared that you had fun. When you said you had a good time, what was he supposed to say– well I didn’t, I don’t want to go out again? You said yourself that you were indifferent to dating him, and yea maybe you hid it behind a smile but he could probably tell.

(ps- I’m not intending this to sound snotty or mean or like I know it all (I don’t, trust me!), but you asked for other opinions so I thought I’d give mine )

I had the exact opposite reaction when he called you out a little on whether or not you had a good time. I think it’s a good sign that he cared enough to really find out (rather than just making light, meaningless chit chat which is what most of that talk is anyway).

And it’s good that you are in the mode to do things differently than you normally would (I am too -it’s hard). He asked, you answered, presumably you were both truthful. So he didn’t call you back…well that sucks. But when it comes down to it, you didn’t put that much out there and at least you know what you did put out there was genuine. For whatever reason, he didn’t take that next step. But you keep dong what you’re doing with every guy that comes down the pike and it’ll get you what you need. At least I hope so or I’m screwed.

I love your blog! I found your blog b/c I’ve had some click-throughs (thank you BlogHer) to my own site from here. When I first read this post, it really pissed me off, I thought “what a douche.” But then I went back and read it again. You were thinking of him as “someone, anyone!”, and you weren’t feeling the fireworks, so the truth is, when he didn’t perceive that you were into him, he was right. I imagine that when he got home and thought it over during the next couple of days, his gut told him he just wasn’t getting the vibe from you. Hard to say what he was feeling, although I give his credit for putting himself out there and asking you. I just wish he had responded with a candid description of his own feelings. Oh well, FIDO (f**k it, drive on)!

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